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Conviction or Shame? How to Tell the Difference
This post is primarily for Christians. A lot of people confuse conviction with shame because, for many of us, mistakes came wit consequences beyond simply being corrected. Maybe mistakes meant criticism. Maybe people pulled away. Maybe love felt conditional. Maybe you...
When Healing Becomes Works: Trauma, Shame, and Finding Rest in Christ
A Necessary Disclaimer Before discussing trauma, it is important to define what we mean. Christians sometimes use words differently than the broader culture, and the word trauma is one that can create confusion. What Do We Mean by Trauma? Trauma does not simply mean...
Why “Knowing Better” Often Isn’t Enough
One of the most frustrating experiences for many people is this: “I understand why I do this, so why do I still keep doing it?” You may understand your trauma. You may know your triggers. You may even know coping skills intellectually. But understanding something...
Trauma, Anxiety, and the Nervous System: Why “Trying Harder” Often Doesn’t Work
Trauma, Anxiety, and the Nervous System: Why “Trying Harder” Often Doesn’t Work Many Christians silently carry shame because they believe their emotional struggles mean they are weak spiritually. They pray, read Scripture, and try to “have more faith,” yet still...
You Need to Be More Loving
“You Need to Be More Loving.” If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard this—said to me, said by me, or whispered inside my own head—I’d probably be retired by now. It sounds spiritual. It sounds right. And yet almost every...
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